How to Know When You’re Ready to Meet in Person
Preparing to meet someone you only know from an online dating site can be very traumatizing. You worry about whether you will like each other and whether the person with whom you have been communicating has been honest about aspects of his or her life. Is the picture you have a real picture or will you see a different person in the flesh? All of these things go into the picture and make things very difficult as you contemplate the first meeting. They may even create a sense of insecurity that causes you to delay the meeting as long as possible.
Is there any way to know for sure about the honesty and integrity of the person with whom you have been communicating? How do you know you have been corresponding with a Mennonite single and not someone who is not even a Christian? All of these questions come into the picture and can add to an overwhelming sense of dread—or at least fear—when an in person meeting is imminent. After all, you can only stall for so long without making the other person suspicious of your motives—or worse yet offending him or her because of your lack of faith. The real truth is if you have any doubts you are not ready to meet in person and should be honest enough to admit to that fact.
How do you know when you are ready to meet someone with whom you have been an online relationship? The truth is you will know in your heart when you are ready to take the next step. When you have no doubts about the motives of the other person and have confidence he or she has been telling the truth you are ready to meet. Until you have faith in the honesty and integrity of your online partner it is best not to attempt an offline meeting. If you do decide to meet in spite of doubts it’s a good idea to meet in a public place and keep your address and telephone number private. You don’t want to put yourself into a situation where you have to move or change your phone number because of a stalker.
One of the best ways to avoid the potential of an offline meeting that doesn’t go well is to communicate online as long as possible. You want to know as much about the Mennonite single with whom you are communicating as possible before you even consider meeting in person. You don’t want to date someone you don’t know well and run the risk of failure; it’s better to wait and assure success than to rush into things and risk failure. It is not a guarantee but no relationship comes with a guarantee, online or offline. Exercise caution and let your mind tell you when it is the right time to arrange an in person meeting. Finally, do not rush into anything but rather take the time to get to know and trust each other.